I’ve explained some ways of making a direct approach at the station, but there are other methods available to the more reserved female.
I have identified some of the routine of the firefighter in his normal habitat the firehouse previously so what are some indirect routes to your alpha male?
In good weather and during off hours the firefighters will engage their surroundings by lulling outside the fire station. Especially in the evenings. Depending on the physical location of their residence your opportunity to present yourself to the men will vary.
Neighborhood stations are an excellent location for two reasons. First off they are quiet and less industrial in appearance. Because of this the labor of the firefighters to maintain an appearance suitable to the neighbors is required. Lawns must be mowed, bushes trimmed, and a general rule to blend in is in place.
Secondly because of these activities the guys are out and about, we engage in our neighborhoods. I worked at many stations where in the winter we shoveled the snow off the walks of our neighbors and in the summer hard boundaries of where our lawn began and ended were never observed, we just mowed all the grass around us.
How is this an advantage in your quest? Simple we are always in a state of heightened awareness, just walk by while the boys are outside, they will notice. Put a fire station on your jogging/walking route, we love fit women in nice fitting workout clothing, and you get the added benefit of exercise.
If you make your workout predictable they will habituate to it quickly and somehow always manage to have an outdoor activity around your schedule appearance. One station I worked at we knew the timing of all our regular exercisers. We got so used to their routines that we even became comfortable arranging seats at the opening of the garage area and waiting for that 10 seconds of entertainment.
This may all sound ridiculous but I am not making up stories here, I witnessed events like this on a regular basis and saw many dates arranged purely from this activity. So how does running past a fire station facilitate a meeting?
Get thirsty one day and ask for a drink on the right day from the correct guy, that’s how. Another tactic I saw was the disappearing jogger. We would arrange our chairs as usual and wait for runner to appear, and then there would be a no show.
Terribly confusing for us. We would all check our watches, the calendar, see if maybe daylight savings time had begun unnoticed by us. With no good reason that we could discern for the absence we became concerned, what could have happened to her? Being firefighters our minds would go automatically to the worst case scenario.
Maybe she was run over down the street or fell and was lying injured somewhere. On one occasion we became so concerned we actually got on the truck and cruised our district looking for some sign of her. The next day we informed our relief of her absence and told them to keep an eye out to see if she came by.
A week passed before she reappeared. You would have thought we had an in station alarm by all the associated commotion as she approached. It was agreed that we needed to question her as to her whereabouts for the past week.
As she came closer a couple of us moved from our regular observation post at the opening of the garage to the sidewalk. We flagged her down and she stopped.
“Yes” she said out of breath.
“We were wondering if you were okay.”
“Okay?” she said.
“Yeah, well we hadn’t seen you in the last few days and got worried maybe you had been injured or something.”
She laughed and smiled.
“You guys got worried about me?”
“Well yeah, we’ve kinda noticed you always seem to run by about this time everyday and then one of the guys mentioned he hadn’t seen you in awhile, and being firemen we worried that maybe you had been run over or fallen or something terrible.”
She continued smiling.
“Well I have been on vacation with my girlfriends and just got back. I’m sorry I didn’t advise you guys of my vacation plans, I had no idea you cared.”
“We kind of like to keep an eye on our neighbors and the neighborhood and when something is out of place so to say, we notice, that’s all.” I said.
“Well I had no idea I was so well protected.”
“Safety first, it’s kinda our motto.” I said.
She ended up having lunch with us our next shift and we all got to know her, one of us more than the others. I tell this story because she dated that guy for quite awhile and after sometime had passed she confessed she had almost given up jogging because we were so slow to act. She didn’t realize that under some circumstances firemen are chickens.
Next time I will cover meeting your firefighter in the real world. Being creatures of habit we tend to visit the same clubs where we are first off known and secondly where we have had previous success at meeting women.
Firefighters almost always run in packs and a firm understanding of this group dynamic is required for your success. We will cover that next time.